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Becoming Entrepreneurs…The Whole Family

July 2, 2006

I am always thinking of something to do that is totally out of the box.  The ideas constantly fill my Head from dusk until dawn, sometimes to the point of insanity.  If there was a way for me to get all of my thoughts out onto paper, I would have to buy stock in Hammermill.

Anyways, I am a 33 year old married lady.  I have been married to my husband, Dan, for 8 years.  Dan is a wonderful guy.  He is a story book husband (I know it’s sickening, but it’s true).  He has to be the kindest and most loyal man on the planet.  I am truly luck to have him as my partner.  We are partners in our personal life, our business life, and thankfully, in our married life as well. 

We have two children together.  Derek, who is about to turn 13 in July, and Mallory who just turned 7.   In my opinion, these kids are growing up in a household that is probably different than any household you have ever been in.  And I’m serious about that.  We are truly in our own world when we are together in our home, out to dinner, in the vehicle, traveling, or whatever we are doing. There is such a thing as a close knit family.  You know, the kind you see on T.V.  Well, that’s not us, really.  We’re kinda like The Griswalds but a whole lot smarter with more ambition!

In 1998, Dan and I decided that we were not going to work a 9 to 5 job any longer!  We mututally decided that the rigamorole of being an employee had just about come to an end in both of our minds.  What we didn;t realize is that we both had Entrepreneurial monds that had not been developed.  We were a “virgin” state of mind, and are thinking now that it must hit people at a cerrtain age.  We were both about 26 years old…..and ready for a change. A change that would not only affect our lives, but the lives of both of our children.

At this point in our life, Derek was only 6 years old, and Mallory just an infant. Children are sponges at every age, so we were programming them already to think and believe a certain way for the rest of their life.  By being employees and making someone else rich, that was NOT the message we wanted being delivered to ourselves, much less our kids!

 So, what did we do?  We did what every one in the world (probably) has attempted to do.  We were going to WORK AT HOME!  WOw! Can you imagine that?  Being able to be at home with your children, still be able to work and pay the bills, and not have to answer to a BOSS??  That sounds like a great life, doesn’t it?  I’m here to tell you that it sounds nice, but it doesn’t work like that.  Yes, there are programs that allow you to work at home.  You work your fingers to the bone for peanuts.  You get frustrated easily and end up going to the beach without getting the job done. 

We tried everything!!  We built earrings at home, we stuffed envelopes, we thought about vending machine routes…all turned up a big ZERO. 

It wasn’t until 1999 we discovered the beautiful world and business of real estate.  We say an infomercial on late night T.V. of some guy that would tell us how to buy houses with no money down and make thousands of dollars.  Wow! This sounded like something that was right up our alley!  Thousands of dollars and we don;t need any money to do it?  that was good, because we didn’t have any.  We contemplated over buying the course for months, wondering where we were going to get $199 to buy the cassette tape and workbook course offered on the T.V.  It was challenging.  We asked our family members, but we only got laughed at..They said it was a “gimmick” and that we shouldn’t waste our money.  We stayed persistent, and finally asked for the course as a Christmas present from Kathy, my mother in-law.  She lives in upstate NY in a one horse town.  She obliged, ordered the course for us as a Christmas present, and had it delivered to our front door.

 When the package arrived, we both tore into the box and ripped open the material. Dan took the book and I took the tapes, and we got right to it that same day.  We read the book cover to cover, and listed to the tapes 3 or 4 times.  It was very confusing to listen to all of this terminology that we knew nothing about.  Also frustrating at times, since we were totally green and had no knowledge of any real estate topics whatsoever!

 To make a very long story about how we became successful, we never stopped pursuing our dreams.  We had found the business that was a PERFECT match!  Insane as it may sound, we both love and have a passion for real estate and the business surrounding real estate on a level that is very profound and sincere.  We have struggled through times of being frustrated, times of almost torturous financial problems, times of chaos and desperation.  One thing we have never done, however, is give up on what we both believe in.  And that is to become financially and mentally free, you must be an entrepreneur.  You have to sit on the side of the table that controls the employees.  You should ALWAYS be the one in charge of your life, you finances, your destiny.  The achieve what you believe is to be persistent, persevere, and never look back.  You will reach your goals if you stay focused on them and do what it takes to make it happen.  There is no difference between the successful and the unsuccessful other than what they are taught to believe.  And that all starts with the parenting………

This Blog is going to take you through the lives of Derek and Mallory.  Two siblings who are being raised in a household with a very firm belief in achieving what you believe and making the best life for yourself that you possibly can.   

We are raising them both to believe

  • You should never work for anyone other than yourself
  • You can achieve anything as long as you believe in yourself
  • Being average is not acceptable
  • You must be an excellent money manager if you plan on being rich
  • You should do what you are passionate about
  • Not to let what other people think get in the way of your success
  • Stay true to who you are, and people will love you
  • Money is necessary in life, so let’s love it and what it can do for us

I’m going to tell you everything that we do and say to our kids to reinforce an Entrepreneur way of thinking. You have to remember that I have no idea how my kids are going to turn out or what they will be when they grow up.  What I do know, is that if I have anything to do with it, or if Dan and I together can program them to be financially free at a very young age and not have to deal with the pressures of the working world, then we will do everything in our power to make that happen for them.

Since Derek is 12 and Mallory is only 7, I anticipate that this will take about 15 to 20 years before the end of the story is complete.  I plan on keeping this journal until I feel like both of my children have decided on a future for themselves and they are set in their adulthood.  If it happens at a certain age like it did with me and Dan, it’ll be when they are 25 years old (or somewhere around there). 

Hey…who knows what will happen…but for those of you who want to help your kids become Entrepreneurs, I will be an example of what or what not to do to help them get there!